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The North NJ Car Community Is In Shambles

The definition of a community is "a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common".


When you think about that definition and the overall explanation of "community", you typically think of like-minded individuals who enjoy similar interests as you. Community also breeds friendship, conversations, and enjoying the company of others.


The problem is that in today's world, particularly in North Jersey (Bergen County for example), there is no more community... at least not one that resembles anything of significance.


In this blog post, you'll learn about a few experiences of car enthusiasts in the North NJ realm, why the experiences were bad, and how we as a community can fix them.


The Experience Of Many

New Jersey isn't exactly known for its kindness, smiles, and overall hospitality. In many parts of NJ, you can walk right past someone and not even get a smile. Although this is common, it doesn't have to be, especially when you go to a particular community event with people who enjoy the same things you do.


The overall experience for North NJ car communities seem to be one of three things:

  1. Random burnouts/lots of cops (there's a time and place for burnouts).

  2. Negativity, arrogance, and nothing that resembles a community.

  3. Everyone feels uncomfortable.


There's also a lot of "ego flexing" and people attempting to act like they're too good for others.


Here's the problem with the three points made above - it's cute in the beginning until it's not. There have been multiple car communities in NJ go under because of these three things. Unfortunately, more keep popping up and they haven't learned the lessons of their predecessors.


Ultimately, there are many individuals in NJ who absolutely love cars, but they don't have a place to go where they actually feel welcomed and comfortable.

You'll learn about how that's being fixed in an upcoming section.


The odd thing is in South Jersey and Central Jersey, these problems don't really exist. Sure, you'll always have one or two people that fell off the tree too early, but ultimately everyone is kinder in the South and Central car community events.


The Why

At a recent Cars and Coffee event in Bergen County NJ, several members of the NJ Beamer Groups that met up at the Cars and Coffee event stopped right in the middle of Route 4 (a main highway in NJ) to take pictures and videos.


Yes, you read that right - they stopped in the middle of the highway for.... pictures and videos.


The long and short of it is it doesn't require too many functioning brain cells to understand that that's not okay. There's a time and place for everything, particularly a time and place that doesn't endanger everyone around you.


The reason why car communities are in shambles is because of mindsets like this. People who believe stopping in the middle of the highway to take a pic or doing burnouts right in front of cops is funny, fun, interesting, or moderately acceptable.

Overall, the hosts running car communities must understand the repercussions of their actions. They must also understand that there needs to be order in place for the protection of others.


People want to feel good when they are pursuing a hobby and they want to feel welcomed.


How Can We Fix It

At this point, you may be wondering how this can be fixed. It's actually pretty simple.


  1. Care about the community.

  2. Care about everyone around you.

  3. Do the right thing.


Yeah, crazy right? Three main life lessons that we all learned in Kindergarten can help car communities not only grow, but thrive.


The biggest thing to remember when you host or go to a car community is enjoy each other's company. Car events aren't meant to boost your ego, make you feel better about yourself (there are some great psychologists in NJ for that), or "flex" on others (how old are we again?). It's about enjoying each others company, being around the things we love, and caring for each other.


As of right now, the North Jersey events consist of individuals that put themselves on a pedestal for no reason and expect others to do the same. What they forgot about is that respect is earned, not given.

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